Such an important thing to think about. We spend a lot of time with ourselves and if we're having a go the whole time it can have a negative effect. One question I find useful is to ask yourself what you would say to a good friend. We're often much meaner to ourselves than to someone else we love.

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This book by Mary Welford is a good one too: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Compassionate-Mind-Approach-Building-Self-Confidence/dp/1780330324/ref=asc_df_1780330324/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=310805565966&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=18171044736043241899&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9045631&hvtargid=pla-537293131368&psc=1&th=1&psc=1

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And in the new book I just have out one of the chapters is all about speaking to ourselves more kindly (April's chapter). This is on sale at only 99p for a few days if you want the e-book. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Year-Change-Your-Mind-Therapy-ebook/dp/B0B4BTF8RH/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1671200145&sr=1-1