To deal with anxiety - read The 5 Second Rule book and share this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast with your girlfriend -

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002?i=1000582487785

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For debt - it's a long game. You have to chip away at it. You also have to look at both your expenses and cutting back, as much as you look at how you're going to make more money. You will get it down if you're consistently chipping away at paying it off

and here's another thing - if you can rack up that much debt to the IRS you know exactly how to make enough money to pay it off - so stop licking your fucking wounds and get to work :)

and for those of you who don't know - between 2008 and 2014 we were 800k in debt and took us another 3 years to even get the liens off the house, you can do it, it just won't happen over night

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and that's a great joke about Pooh and Tigger... I'm assuming you're talking about our 3 kids, and they are all fine today, tomorrow who knows!