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420Deez t1_jbowjan wrote

Reply to comment by newmama1991 in LPT request: how to become a less judgey person? by newmama1991

judgment is normal. it can be advantageous, knowing how to read dangerous people before things happen. if you were oblivious to everyone, you wouldnt stay safe. if youre not acting on your judgment i dont see the problem. im always roasting people in my head “WHAT ARE THOSEEEE” but i dont say anything, i just go on about my day.

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Jaded-Moose983 t1_jbp2eer wrote

I agree with the comment that judging is normal. Every creature makes judgements about every situation it's in. Trying to completely turn that off might make a person more susceptible to risks.

I think it's more important to learn not to act on every little judgement that comes to mind.

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newmama1991 OP t1_jbpbghm wrote

Perhaps that's the nuance that I mean then 🤔 I feel like I judge negatively to quickly, without knowing the story or facts, for example. I'd like to keep a more open mind.

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Jaded-Moose983 t1_jbqxqv4 wrote

What I try to do is to find something to compliment. "What a beautiful blouse." "That tattoo is great, where'd you get it?" "What an awesome car!" That type of thing. It helps keep me thinking positively about people and I'd like for people to feel good about themselves if they interact with me.

BTW, your ability to express yourself is fantastic. I wonder if you are a writer.

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newmama1991 OP t1_jbrm025 wrote

Thanks so much! I am not a writer but my husband has complimented me on it before. I'm not sure why, haha. English is not my first language.

Your tip is wonderful and a great exercise to try. In combination with not responding on your first thought. I have ADHD so it can be difficult sometimes.

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newmama1991 OP t1_jbpbv93 wrote

Your response made me realise I mean I don't want to jump to negative conclusions to quickly, perhaps. I stead of just judging.

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