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NateCow t1_je2f71i wrote

Reply to comment by sarahjd82 in LPT: How to support someone grieving: the process is not linear and often takes longer than people think (even, and sometimes especially, when the relationship with the deceased was painful or estranged). A year may seem like a long time since a death, but to the grieving, it can feel very recent. by survivalothefittest

As soon as I read "The best explanation for grief," I figured you were going to go into the ball in the box. Spot fucking on. I lost one of my best friends and then my girlfriend with 16 months of each other, both while I was living across the country for work. That metaphor really helped me through the random waves of grief.

A friend of mine lost his wife (of just under 3 years) last year. The thing I told him is that it doesn't get "easier." You just get used to it. You're suddenly thrust into a new phase of life without that person, and you'll eventually grow accustomed to this new reality.

EDIT: Rephrasing.

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KeeperofAmmut7 t1_je33c24 wrote

>The thing I told him is that it doesn't get "easier." You just get used to it.

Deffo. I feel guilty that I was relieved that I didn't hafta wait up until he decided to come to be, because I hadta walk behind him and help him up the stairs because his knee would go out. Too many times he started to fall and I got body slammed into the front door, or had to move his feet closer onto the step so he could get balance.

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