justnocrazymaker t1_jcrawej wrote on March 18, 2023 at 11:23 PM

For me, setting a boundary is the key. Being brave enough to say, “no that doesn’t work for me” in the moment. I can say that right away, before the ask becomes upsetting, before I can get angry with myself for being a “pushover”. It’s hard, it takes practice, but I’ve found the sooner I put up a boundary and the less I JADE when pressed, the less I feel I’ve been wronged or hurt or taken advantage of in the first place.

It still takes practice though.

pisspot718 t1_jcrd5n7 wrote on March 18, 2023 at 11:40 PM

Definitely having boundaries, even if they are internal (what you'll tolerate from people) and not outwardly expressed, is important. If a person has hurt or insulted you it is for them to right the wrong, after you express that you didn't like what they did.