While it’s ok to wait a day or two if you’re feeling rage, or if your livelihood or freedom is at risk, in most instances (and sometimes even those) SPEAK UP IN THE MOMENT. You can wait til later to go into detail or to have a heart to heart, but “don’t raise your voice to me” “That’s not what I said” “I’m not going to do that” etc are examples of what you can say in the moment. If you don’t, it’s possible that whoever you’re saying it to will deny the situation (whether purposefully or not; they might genuinely not remember it’s a big deal to you, not them) or if other people are present your silence will signal to them that it’s ok to disrespect you.

I used to be the give a pass, don’t want to embarrass them or spill their secrets person. I regret it. It hardly ever was to my advantage. I looked out for them even when they weren’t looking out for me and they fucked me every time. Save yourself. Fuck them people.