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HelenEk7 t1_je4b133 wrote

I dont mention possible children at all when talking to people that dont have any. Not when they are single, not when they are married, not when they look pregnant, not even when knowing they are trying to have a baby. If they want to talk about it, they will bring it up. If not, its a subject better to avoid.

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yourock_rock t1_je57vhi wrote

Please also don’t mention it to people with existing children. I have 1 child and cannot have anymore and get asked all the time when we’re having #2. Never. It’s very painful to get this question asked by complete strangers all the time.

Just don’t ask people about their fertility.

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Beazore t1_je6iz0p wrote

I hadn't thought of this before. Sending love 💛

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philbobalboa t1_je6yc0k wrote

We’re over 2 years into our fertility journey with our second kid. It blows my mind the number of people who think it’s okay to tell us “your daughter is getting old, you should really think about giving her a brother or sister”. Mind your own damn business!

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jawesome4321 t1_je7bp9q wrote

We had our daughter 10 months ago and people began hassling us on when we were going to have another after 1 month. I've started asking people if they're going to push the baby out of their vagina.

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deepndarkheart t1_je92sww wrote

The fudgecake people even have to do with anyone's homely, internal, personal, super personal matters? People are dumb. If anyone would ask me a question like that I'll not spare them any respect and go ballisitic with my tongue.

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Calm-Zombie2678 t1_je5zy93 wrote

>not when they look pregnant

faaaaarrrrk we've all been there, so embarrassing/s

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e11spark t1_je816ys wrote

Family planning is NEVER anybody's business except the family that is doing the planning. I never even asked my own sister, I let her tell me when she became pregnant 4 yrs into her marriage, at age 36.

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Sky_Muffins t1_je8u6qj wrote

You can ask, just don't be upset when my list of reasons takes the rest of the day to explore.

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