Pokinator t1_je1zp2w wrote on March 28, 2023 at 8:48 PM

Reply to comment by BaldBear_13 in LPT request cleaning while my partner is home by dandelionbaaby

It also begs the question of who this concern is coming from.

Has OP's partner expressed issues with stuff not getting done in the evenings, or does OP feel anxiety about their productivity tanking once their partner comes home?

For my two cents, as long as the critical tasks are getting done, the child is having their needs met, and the relationship is happy, it's okay for both partners to slow down in the evenings and enjoy some recharge time.

Keeping a grind-set mentality and always stressing about the next thing that needs to get done is a fast track to burnout.A few tasks getting delayed is better than mentally crashing and none of them getting done.

dandelionbaaby OP t1_je2mrle wrote on March 28, 2023 at 11:27 PM

The only issue my partner has expressed is wishing I’d throw his work clothes in the wash more often, instead of his every day lounging clothes lol. That’s easily resolved by him reminding me though! All the essential tasks are done always, we never have NO clean dishes, clothes, towels, etc. I would say my anxiety comes mostly from when he is home on weekends, or has extra days off work and my usual get it all done while he’s at work routine gets messed with! It’s almost like I get stage fright cleaning in front of people, or my cleaning style just doesn’t mesh well with other body’s in the house.. I know what works BEST for me, I’m definitely hoping I can get some tips to find what works just okay for me in terms of cleaning if there’s people home

coconut-bubbles t1_je3bn0f wrote on March 29, 2023 at 2:35 AM

If you do laundry 2x per week, is the issue doing laundry or the amount of work clothes they have? You shouldn't have to do laundry 5x per week just for work clothes. Or, if finances are a problem with buying new alternate work clothes, can you work out a system? For example: you do laundry on Sundays and Wednesdays. If they need more, they throw in loads themselves

Independent_Snow1458 t1_je39fgf wrote on March 29, 2023 at 2:17 AM

So true. We all need to rest and spend time with loved ones even if we have to put off some things on our to do list.