As a version of this person I’m going to recommend you just get comfortable doing the dishes. I know it’s not fair, and you will constantly talk shit behind their back to your friends….but you are doing that anyway so just man-up and do their dishes. It will save you a lot of stress and imma tell you a bit of a secret…you will likely end up doing this when you get married and for the rest of your life. About 30% of people have clean sinks at the end of the night….that’s because 15% of people are psychopaths like you that care