The next time you have an argument, just stop. Think to yourself what you are arguing about. When you realize this, change your tone and ask "Alright, so how do we solve this?". In most of your cases it will never matter if you are right or wrong. The earth will still spin, birds will still sing, so that says a lot about how important that issue is. Just take a moment, zoom out and admit "So we have this issue, what can we do to get it over with so we can carry on with our lives?". The one you are arguing will be stumped, I promise you.

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omniscientchar t1_jeafnw0 wrote on March 30, 2023 at 4:17 PM

No sir. I will win. There is no other viable or acceptable outcome playing out in my head. Tyvm though

Blutroice t1_jeb9uun wrote on March 30, 2023 at 7:30 PM

Are you my wife?

Useful_Result_4550 t1_jebqgt6 wrote on March 30, 2023 at 9:15 PM

I'm a wife, and I support this message 👍😆

John_EightThirtyTwo t1_jeap7sn wrote on March 30, 2023 at 5:18 PM

THERE CAN BE ONLY ONE!

omniscientchar t1_jearw6c wrote on March 30, 2023 at 5:35 PM

I will destroy my enemies (and their arguments)

YummyMummy2024 t1_jean1uf wrote on March 30, 2023 at 5:05 PM

I like the idea but it sounds a little passive aggressive. I’d word it more objectively by, summarizing the other sides objections and then ask what I can do to overcome them (instead of we).

Icy-Reflection6014 t1_jebbd8d wrote on March 30, 2023 at 7:39 PM

That would be passive aggressive.

YummyMummy2024 t1_jebejow wrote on March 30, 2023 at 8:00 PM

I use this technique and it works really well. Im the one taking all the blame/responsibility by framing it this way. The other way makes it sound rhetorical, this way there is a road map. Im rambling now :)

Happy3ConfusedLonely t1_jearbhx wrote on March 30, 2023 at 5:32 PM

Yeah kinda sounds like akibg for a fight

Edit: asking* lmao

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flightwatcher45 t1_jeczkrg wrote on March 31, 2023 at 2:45 AM

Its fine to have a respectable argument sometimes. We are humans with emotions! But yes, take a break and cool off. Then continue to argue about how to resolve it. Then so whatever your partner wants. Haha

AlwaysProfoundVoid t1_jegubm5 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 10:34 PM

"It's not you vs. them. It's you and them vs. the problem."

Zwitternacht t1_jedhet4 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 5:39 AM

“Next time you are arguing just stop” wow great LPT thanks