Anxiety can damage our self esteem, reduce confidence causing less risk taking which brings low reward, which lowers motivation. Comparing yourself to others is natural but will create anxiety and assumes we are all in the same situation. The strong mindset comes when you feel productive or well rewarded for your efforts. Success is different for everyone. If someone is willing to try, they deserve respect. Respect your efforts and learning is your reward for failing. Reduce anxiety with humble mindfulness and appreciation for yourself