I can understand where you’re coming from! I am a very serious type when it comes to dating. I won’t just keep romantically hang out with someone if I know it’s not going to be it for the long game. That would be unfair for the both of us.

But when you start dating someone, my advice would be to not try to find your soulmate at the first few dates. The new people you meet, the new things you might learn… it should never feel like utterly wasted time!

Even my lesser dates were interesting in some way. Sometimes it just gave me a good laugh afterwards, other times I found new placed in the town I lived in for over 10 years and some of them taught me new things or gave me refreshing insights, even when I would definitely not see them as long term romantic partners!

Hope this clears up my post a bit!