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more_beans_mrtaggart t1_itb8ana wrote

Many people get the idea of friends becoming partners eventually, and that “getting to know someone” as a friend first is far easier pressurewise.

Lots of guys think this is a way forward.

Ladder theory and experience says otherwise. It very rarely works out. It’s a huge mental leap for most female brains to go from friend to partner.

Sure it happens, but usually it doesn’t.

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Captain_Kyra OP t1_itbbhf6 wrote

I’m not necessarily saying start as friends, than become partners. More like just don’t put pressure on first dates to meet “the one”. Go to your first date with a mindset like: I am just going to hang out with (hopefully) a nice person. If it romantically/sexually clicks, then hell yeah. If it doesn’t? No wasted time, still enjoyed hanging out with this person.

That way you take the pressure away of having to meet the right/perfect person, and just enjoy the company you have right now.

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