Submitted by dbsgirl t3_y7q2hj in LifeProTips
Many of us have felt the awkward moment when someone you are casual friends or acquaintances with loses someone they were close to - what to say? It feels underwhelming sometimes to drop another "sorry for your loss" into the pot - though there is nothing wrong with that and I assure you, your sympathy is still felt and appreciated.
But if you're tempted to not say anything due to wishing you had something "better" to say, then use either your personal knowledge (recollection of any stories or mentions by your friend about the deceased) or read the obituary once posted.
It lets the acquaintance know you really took a moment out to consider their pain and learn/remember the person that has shuffled off this mortal coil.
Examples: Wow Friend, it sounds like your whole town will feel this loss with all they've done for local charities and fixing up cars for people in need. I know woodworking isn't a common habit, it sounds like they were very talented!
Or
Oh man, Friend I'm so sorry. I remember well the story you told me about your fishing trip together and how they made you laugh so hard you dropped your pole in the water. It's such a blessing to have made so many great memories together, I know that one day those stories will give you something to grin about again instead of feeling the sting of loss. My best to you, your family and everyone missing them right now.
DetN8 t1_isw2yn4 wrote
"I'm so sorry about your dad. It must have been rough for him to get dismembered like that."