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Live_Resource_3357 t1_iud6svz wrote

Reply to comment by mainlydank in LPT: Try to keep problems with you and your significant other between the two of you. by Pale_Perception_4927

Me being in this perticular spot right now, I'll let you know that , i don't think a best mate will take just your side until he is just your mate and doesn't even know your partner.

My best mate is having issues right now , and he vents and removes his frustration while we go for a drink or match. I give me a reality check because I know his girl too. ( He had introduced her to me while we went on trip together ) , When he understands that sometimes just the situations are in certain conditions which seems bad and it's not her fault , i can see his wheels turning and we go get flowers so that he can apologise and make things right. It's good to talk to others but make sure if it's your best mate then he should also know her .

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mainlydank t1_iud94d5 wrote

I have realized this is really one of those things that is highly dependent on whom one is talking to. If one is married, ones friends should 100% support that persons relationship no matter what, with the exception of actual abuse.

I've seen my wife talk to her scumbag friends and family members, and those people don't 100% support our relationship, they have got too many of their own issues they havent dealt with, so some are man haters, and some are just not good at being therapists so they give bad advice. It almost ruined our relationship.

I suppose better advice would be "Don't talk to friends or family members about relationship problems, unless they 100% support your relationship and doing whatever it takes to make it work"

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Live_Resource_3357 t1_iudbaer wrote

Absolutely right ! The goal should be to support the relationship and advise should be taken from those who don't have some personal issue going on as well , because that person will reflect his own situation onto yours.

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