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o-ater t1_itsot2b wrote

Reply to comment by work-a-day_schlub in LPT REQUEST: How do you nicely decline to answer a question? by letstradeshallwe

And give them enough self awareness to ease off if they feel that way. You don't owe them anything. You don't need to sacrifice your privacy and emotions to satisfy their curiosity or their feelings.

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work-a-day_schlub t1_itsv5u1 wrote

Both of these things are true simultaneously. Yes, you can protect your privacy at all cost and treat people coldly. You can also cause yourself future difficulties because people don't trust or like you because you've treated them like NPCs and not people. We all have our priorities.

Edit: people don't develop "self awareness" when you treat their polite interest with hostility. They assume things about you because you've given them no other choice.

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o-ater t1_itt21hu wrote

Well, we all know what happens when you assume.

There is no "hostility" in asking a question to answer a question. Tone is important and as I've stated, when said with a smile and a friendly tone, the question fosters a conversation instead of a transaction for personal information.

It's important to establish your image or "brand" in your career and it's equally important to establish boundaries between professional and personal life. Using the question "Why would you like to know?" in a friendly and polite way is a good way to deal with the LPT request.

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