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jibabadebadido t1_iuej68k wrote

Honestly I hate when people tell me to wish someone a happy birthday. But that may just be because my mom loved to control my life, even with just that.

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mps435 t1_iuem2xg wrote

I hate that sooo much! "Don't forget to wish your Dad Happy Birthday!" as if I haven't known when his birthday is for the last 20 years. 😪

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CrimsonKepala t1_iuewj0l wrote

I agree 100%.

My mother-in-law reminds both me and my husband every time a family member's birthday comes-up. We have it as a repeat event on our shared calendar so we already know about it and guess what...if we forget to tell them "happy birthday" then we forget. It's not a big deal.

But the fact that it seems so important that she feels the need to give us a personal reminder for it makes it feel like an obligation at that point. As a result, a bunch of the family members get weird about "happy birthdays". Meanwhile for both my husband and I we really don't care about getting all of those messages. When anyone says something like "I'm so sorry I'm late in telling you happy birthday!" we always tell them that it doesn't matter and that it's perfectly fine.

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