haxxer_4chan t1_iuigl2t wrote on October 31, 2022 at 4:05 PM

wait so you're supposed to bring candy to give back to the houses/families after they give you candy? just cuz your kids have friends who live in other neighborhoods? I think the real LPT is to buy candy based on expected traffic rather than the number of permanent residents on your block.

LS-CRX OP t1_iuip9ii wrote on October 31, 2022 at 5:03 PM

Bring candy for your friend to hand out to trick-or-treaters.

Imagine that you live in neighborhood A, and there isn't much participation in your neighborhood so it sucks to trick-or-treat in. Or you live in a rural area where the houses are too far apart for it to be feasible for little kids. Your friend lives in a neighborhood that goes nuts for Halloween and you make plans to go to their house and trick-or-treat with with their neighbors.

Bring your host family a bag of candy. The reason you're going to their neighborhood to trick-or-treat is the same reason the extra candy could come in handy... there might be 300 kids in the neighborhood but 2000 trick-or-treaters on Halloween.

haxxer_4chan t1_iuitnmz wrote on October 31, 2022 at 5:32 PM

Yeah I guess in my mind that's just the price of living in a nicer area and being a host. Plus, your kid is going over there to trick or treat at your friend's neighbors' houses, not just your friend's.

This feels like it's similar but 2 or 3 steps beyond bringing a bottle of wine to someone's party. It might be a nice gesture, but the host should have enough drinks without it that they don't run out if you didn't bring more. That's just planning and standard hosting responsibility. Unless it's specifically a potluck or you've assigned specific things to specific people, it's on the host to do the hosting (which, to be fair, is why I rarely host). Plus, if wine doesn't get drunk the night of, it will still definitely e appreciated and used later. Some people don't love having extra candy in the house, and they may have planned well enough to have all they need on their own.

I agree though that this would be generous if you knew someone was under-prepared, but it just feels like that shouldn't be the case for them and it certainly shouldn't be expected of you.

LS-CRX OP t1_iuj164d wrote on October 31, 2022 at 6:21 PM

>This feels like it's similar but 2 or 3 steps beyond bringing a bottle of wine to someone's party. It might be a nice gesture, but the host should have enough drinks without it that they don't run out if you didn't bring more. That's just planning and standard hosting responsibility.

This is actually the opposite, because people are WAY more likely to invite themselves to your house to trick-or-treat than they are to invite themselves to a dinner party. I don't think we've ever attempted to "invite" someone to come to our house for Halloween... friends just want to come here for the superior trick-or-treating experience for their kids. I don't blame them... our old neighborhood sucked for trick-or-treating. The friends that come here are generally not putting out candy at their own house, so supplying ONE bag of candy to a neighborhood that they are trick-or-treating at is not a big ask.

haxxer_4chan t1_iuj1l7d wrote on October 31, 2022 at 6:24 PM

Sounds like they are just being rude/allowed by their parents to be rude then. The real LPT should be "don't invite yourself to other people's houses" I guess. As a kid when I'd trick or treat with a friend, we never went to their house, we just met in their neighborhood and then returned to our own homes after. But yeah, if showing up uninvited somewhere, I suppose you should at least come bearing gifts

LS-CRX OP t1_iuj2ka5 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 6:30 PM

Our neighborhood is basically undrivable once trick-or-treating starts this afternoon... so generally people just park at our house and walk with their kids or sit on the porch and help hand out candy. Nobody has ever brought candy to our house, and I have never asked them too. I was just thinking about it last night while my wife and I were figuring out Halloween logistics and I thought "it sure would be nice if people brought a bag of candy with them when using our house as Halloween-home-base tomorrow".

If they do, that's really nice. If they don't? No sweat... I stocked up at Sam's Club already. If we run out I have a backup-box of fruit snacks (also from Sam's Club) that I don't anticipate having to deploy.