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Rubberfootman t1_ixlv790 wrote

This also works the other way around. You only get a fairly short amount of time with your kids before they grow up and move on.

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grumblyoldman t1_ixm6aru wrote

I remember reading somewhere that by the time your kid is 10 years old, you've already statistically spent about 70% of the time that you ever will with them. You'll still see them, of course, (as long as you maintain a good relationship) but it will be in smaller and smaller chunks as they get busy with their own lives.

Absolutely, cherish the time you have while you have it.

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[deleted] OP t1_ixm7er2 wrote

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Wyld_1 t1_ixm8fut wrote

Yup. This. My daughter got married this summer and isn't going to be home for Thanksgiving.

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Skiller66 t1_ixmcgfj wrote

Man. All of this will really happen one day. I don’t know why your comment cemented that for me. It’s just so casual, how life marches forward despite our protests.

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kds_little_brother t1_ixmfkx4 wrote

> I remember the last time I held (picked up) both of them, and I held them at the same time, which they both remember, and yesterday felt very much like that.

So you did make them come home?

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80H-d t1_ixml5ro wrote

It's ok. These feelings mean you're doing things right

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hungdown t1_ixm2zar wrote

If you could do me a small favor and build a time machine then go back and tell my father this... that'd be great

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Rubberfootman t1_ixm6j6z wrote

Sorry. If it helps, I’m really making an effort to stop what I’m doing when my boys want to chat.

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oby2 t1_ixmhske wrote

So true, I’ve told my wife the secret to time travel is having a kid, and even then it’s not as cool as it sounds. Everything just progresses at 1.25x speed.

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