This.

If ya gotta good family, y’all should both make time for each other. But you should also respect each other’s boundaries. Sometimes ya need to be alone and focused.

I’m a writer. I love my boyfriend and my roommate, but they gotta respect my writing time for the focus I need as much as I respect their need for focus in their own activities. But we can also tell when we aren’t devoted doing something and THAT’s when it’s time to interact.