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loseit2020andbeyond t1_iwl4tmt wrote

Reply to comment by Jollydancer in LPT REQUEST: How to get over being ghosted. by [deleted]

I should note that i can still see when he has been active on the dating site and he has been active since our last text.

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beigemom t1_iwl6d0y wrote

So that means he is fine, and out and about. I have two bits of advice:

  1. Do not EVER text again. You already made a normal attempt and he rudely did not have the decency to politely cancel. He doesn’t deserve your input and you don’t deserve to torture yourself.

  2. Repeat the following to yourself: dodged a loser bullet. Dodged a loser bullet. Dodged a loser bullet. Because you did.

You will find better. It’s like house shopping: you lose one, there will be something better out there. In your case, in spades.

And BTW, should he ever text back, have a “no” response ready like: “You previously ghosted me which was rude and cowardly. I am letting you know (because I don’t ghost), that I want nothing to do with you. Goodbye”.

Hopefully if anything this will harden you to a-holes.

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Angry-Eater t1_iwltga6 wrote

He sounds unstable. The polarity of “can’t think of anything else!” and then ghosting reminds me of my addict ex-bf. You don’t want someone unstable, girl.

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