While interpersonal skills are important, you’re likely underestimating how much of an impact things other than your “personality” had on those hiring decisions.

This is how unconscious bias is perpetuated into a hiring decision and how some companies (eg in tech) are so full of the same people (white dudes).

As a hiring manager myself, I have to be extremely mindful that “rapport” will be higher with people like me, because that’s how people are. But I don’t want to hire a bunch of nateorades. I want to hire a team with diverse experiences that will be effective at working together and getting the job done.