Ask questions and listen to the answers. And then ask more questions based on the answers. Basic communication 101. Just be an engaging person that’s interested in the conversation. This works for men and women alike.

And when I say “ask questions,” I should clarify: this means normal questions. Not “do you have any school girl fantasies?” But more like “if we were to plug in your iPod right now, what’s the first artist we’d hear?” (For all the creepy ones out there, that’s just another way to ask what kind of music they like)