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keepthetips t1_j29eipp wrote

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lollersauce914 t1_j29eyne wrote

"How to not be a creep: Continue to look at women as sex objects, but look at them as complicated sex objects."

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Picards-Flute t1_j29ft6b wrote

Also talk to them as people, not just objects of desire, and treat them as genuine individuals.

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LisleSwanson t1_j29j29c wrote

You had this thought, typed it up, then hit submit and not once in the process did you stop and say "I'm not Tucker Max maybe I shouldn't try to turn women into objects".

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Relevant_Monstrosity t1_j29jh0f wrote

Replying to Picards-Flute (#1,186,186)

Yes, indeed; anyone who is implying that I am saying anything different is greatly misunderstanding. My tone is deliberate to resonate with men who are perceived as creeps (who hate the label but have an over-active sex drive).

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wwarnout t1_j29kqm4 wrote

How is this advice not creepy?

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AnyUsernameWillDo10 t1_j29lyhm wrote

Ask questions and listen to the answers. And then ask more questions based on the answers. Basic communication 101. Just be an engaging person that’s interested in the conversation. This works for men and women alike.

And when I say “ask questions,” I should clarify: this means normal questions. Not “do you have any school girl fantasies?” But more like “if we were to plug in your iPod right now, what’s the first artist we’d hear?” (For all the creepy ones out there, that’s just another way to ask what kind of music they like)

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redbull21369 t1_j29nzbc wrote

I think what you’re putting nicely is don’t be completely obvious to signs of attraction. Which I take as a personal attack

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smuttypirate t1_j29qwox wrote

Step one, remove "big dick energy" from your parlance.

Step two, go outside...

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AwesomeGrapefruit t1_j29w65p wrote

It doesn't always work. Some guys just end up with dozens of women as friends and that's as far as it goes.

I mean, it's not a bad thing. So many guys don't care to have women as friends. You can make some amazing friends who genuinely love and care about you, who you can talk to about pretty much anything. It's something a lot of guys are missing out on if they only talk to women to get laid or be in a relationship.

But it still kinda sucks. Humans need intimacy in some form or another, not just friends. You could have a million friends that you talk to each and every day, and still feel so depressingly lonely.

Just another LPT to go along with this one: some women can be super affectionate and display a lot of those signs of attraction... and still not really be attracted to you. They can keep eye contact, always find an excuse to get close to or touch you, be super bubbly, call you first thing in the morning to tell you about dreams they had, and not mean any of it in a romantic sense. Or at least not seriously. Sometimes I think women like to have guy friends they can do those things with just cause. I'm sure some guys are guilty of it too.

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dbptwg t1_j29xt10 wrote

Step 1: Focus on bettering yourself and let love find you

That's it, there's just 1 step

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5400feetup t1_j29y3ts wrote

Find some other way to say “get laid”.

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dbptwg t1_j29yzcg wrote

Replying to Environmental-Sock52 (#1,186,666)

Guys really just don't get it. Girls pay attention to hygiene, posture, clothes, language and so many will instantly and permanently friendzone people for things like "get laid". If they spent time talking with girls instead just sexualizing, maybe they would understand what was happening around them.

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dbptwg t1_j29zmh4 wrote

Replying to Relevant_Monstrosity (#1,186,055)

Re: Don't talk to women as objects
Yes, indeed; anyone who is implying that I am saying anything different is greatly misunderstanding. My tone is deliberate to resonate with men who are perceived as creeps (who hate the label but have an over-active sex drive).

Which is it?

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aycerok t1_j2a05p1 wrote

This is only a couple steps away from being the DENNIS system.

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The_Common_God t1_j2a0bkv wrote

Tell me you've never been close to a woman, without telling me you've never been close to a woman

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_--00--_ t1_j2a1i10 wrote

Replying to smuttypirate (#1,188,763)

Big dick energy might not be the right word for it, but he's not wrong. Successful women want confident men who know what they want. They don't have to be disrespectful to get it though.

Confidence is the number 1 thing most women agree is attractive in a mate. Some want immature arrogance. But most just want confidence. Being maturely confident is a skill most adults never master. Hence looking for confidence in a man, isn't the trait you really want to start with.

Most men who are considered confident, cross the line into arrogance.

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PerformerGreat t1_j2a1pks wrote

Or we could just legalize prostitution and skip all the other stuff. i mean if you're only looking to get laid.

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i_need_a_username201 t1_j2a5qvy wrote

Advice is trash, just don’t be a creep. If you misunderstand what you thought was a sign, apologize and move on. Also, no dick pics, like ever.

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Chicahgeaux t1_j2a7vx7 wrote

How lucky are we that not only have you mastered the art of getting laid without being a creep, but you have also to decided to share it with the rest of us peons.

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HelloS0n t1_j2b484y wrote

Replying to Absurdityindex (#1,191,991)

Flirting usually happens naturally. Flirting is being fun, being coy in your interactions, leaving the other partying wanting more and reciprocating these things. Hitting on someone is usually a one-way street.

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[deleted] OP t1_j2bal0y wrote

The problem most men have is that they loose all brain function when they see a woman who they are interested in. It is veery easy though.

All you need to do is stop trying to make things happen, see her as the person she is and listen. Stop trying to steer the conversation, don't underestimate her. If you can't get a proper chat going, you wont get anything else and don't try to make a chat happen if it's just not a vibe.

Learn to deal with rejection. Sex isn't as important as the person before you and make sure you seperate on friendly terms, maybe there will be a cool friendship happen, but only if you stop thinking with your dick.

Women aren't puzzles to solve. They are people, there IS NO CODE OR CERTAIN WAY BECAUSE EVERY WOMAN IS DIFFERENT!

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Sincerly,

A Transman, i lived both, i have the cheat code.

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Edit: and if a woman finds you creepy, there is ZERO! you can do about it because its subjective.

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Zachtpres t1_j2bpt9q wrote

I think what helps with women is to talk to them while wearing a condom. Trust me, they will know it without looking at it, it's science. It's manly, it's Charlie sheen.

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Formerly777 t1_j2btwzm wrote

Andrew Tate been arrested for less than 24 hrs and new top G appears

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Aldayne t1_j2cchmy wrote

Are you a bot? I'm always curious whenever I see AI attempt to make with conversations. Love the big dick energy part <3

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RabbitStewAndStout t1_j2ciy2r wrote

Replying to Relevant_Monstrosity (#1,186,932)

Man here, I don't think in terms of "getting laid", and to argue that "it's just nature" is to also argue that humans are incapable of being civilized, which is observably wrong.

People need "How to Read Social Cues for Dummies", not "How to Creep Without The Label"

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Suchaboy t1_j2cy0y4 wrote

If your looking for a casual hookup talk to girls at bars, parties, etc. If you are looking for a spouse then talk to girls in a casual in a casual way.

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Rheum42 t1_j2d1wfw wrote

Yeah I don't think this is much of a LPT

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