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hatersaurusrex t1_j28ijdd wrote

Are you friendly? Are you interested in other people?

LPT: If not, don't waste your time by faking it.

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Constant-Cap-22 t1_j28jc9k wrote

I second this. I use to waste my time trying to engage more often with people. It would drain me mentally. Now I just engage when I want, and I’ve never been happier in my life. So what if I seem like an asshole, atleast I’m a happy one

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dirigiberbil OP t1_j28o9tj wrote

I do consider myself friendly but recently I've been told I come off as cold which was a huge surprise to me. I don't want to be fake but I don't want to stay like this.

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No-Temperature-8772 t1_j28tymh wrote

Definitely ask the person who told you this to go into detail. Ask what habits or incidents have given that impression and work on it. It's one thing to act friendly, but people will always perceive what's really going on. I know someone who is very polite but also acts condescending at the worst times. It cancels out good manners in the long run.

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wantAdvice13 t1_j29ym1f wrote

That’s a great way to be interested in other people. If they told you something you don't understand, ask nicely why, then the conversation starts flowing.

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