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dirigiberbil OP t1_j28o9tj wrote

Reply to comment by hatersaurusrex in LPT Request: how to come off as friendly and interested in other people? by dirigiberbil

I do consider myself friendly but recently I've been told I come off as cold which was a huge surprise to me. I don't want to be fake but I don't want to stay like this.

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No-Temperature-8772 t1_j28tymh wrote

Definitely ask the person who told you this to go into detail. Ask what habits or incidents have given that impression and work on it. It's one thing to act friendly, but people will always perceive what's really going on. I know someone who is very polite but also acts condescending at the worst times. It cancels out good manners in the long run.

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wantAdvice13 t1_j29ym1f wrote

That’s a great way to be interested in other people. If they told you something you don't understand, ask nicely why, then the conversation starts flowing.

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