FindTheRemnant t1_j1a69ic wrote
Reply to comment by Sofarbeyondfucked in LPT: Don't spy on your SO to try to catch them cheating. If you can't trust them, just break up. by 5YOChemist
He cheated because he was tired of being accused of cheating? Yeah no.
The aunt was likely picking up on signs he was a cheat risk, and he eventually proved she was correct.
PhasmaFelis t1_j1a80zx wrote
> The aunt was likely picking up on signs he was a cheat risk
So she was punishing him for crimes he was going to commit, and that makes it okay?
I'm not saying he was right or justified to cheat, in the end. But the fact that he did doesn't retroactively excuse her abuse. Some bad situations don't have a good guy.
Let_you_down t1_j1ab2l7 wrote
Folks who accuse others of cheating come in three forms: Projection. Cheating or want to cheat themselves, accuse partner of it.
Paranoia: Insecurities, previous experiences, misogyny/misandry/misanthropy. These peeps will be controlling or abusive towards their partners. Neglectful, no love/romance, partner can't do anything right. Often done when a partner cannot easily leave the situation (marriage, living together, kids, etc).
Folks who just get it: Very empathetic people who pick up on cues and the emotional state of other people.
If it was the third, I imagine aunt would have approached it differently. Peeps with that level of empathy and intuition are going to avoid most of those problems before they become a problem, and they certainly address problems differently than that.
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