nutterbutters54321 t1_j6pfyrh wrote on January 31, 2023 at 11:31 PM

Reply to comment by srfrosky in LPT: practise non-attachment to get rid of jealousy by Prestigious-Sense942

That’s what abusers used to justify taking other people’s love and showing none in return. I would not advise anybody getting tangled up with anyone in that way outside of a parent-child relationship. If someone treats you like garbage or fails to show you love that becomes a data point in your decision about your regard for them.

srfrosky t1_j6phgga wrote on January 31, 2023 at 11:41 PM

Yikes. I think you got a very backwards understanding of love if you think it’s transactional and conditional. I’m happy to say that I love who I chose to love, and am happy to report that if someone is toxic or abusive towards me or others I’m free to distance myself from them on those grounds. You see, you don’t HAVE to love someone that is awful. The only distinction is that you can love independent to what you get in return. But it takes maturity to not insert power dynamics. You should give it a try. Cheers 🥂