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[deleted] OP t1_j4ji05z wrote

Reply to comment by thgirwa in LPT Request: How to ensure that a person doesn't use my personal belongings while staying at my place? by [deleted]

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timmyboyoyo t1_j4jjfro wrote

Who did you hear it from (don't need to say), but tell your brother this then, as he is co-owner

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[deleted] OP t1_j4jkd99 wrote

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TuckerCarlsonsOhface t1_j4jofjt wrote

So, the people who know this person think he’s that sketchy, but still want you to open your home to them without you even being there to facilitate? I would honestly tell them to gently screw off. If they’re so concerned they can pay for his hotel.

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southdakotagirl t1_j4jrlvf wrote

I let a coworker stay at my house and house sit for me. He was leaving a bad relationship that was abusive. He ended up costing me $1500 in damages and water for staying 2 weeks. He broke my washer hoses and leaked water all over the basement. He didn't notice the hoses were no longer attached. He used my garage and rammed his car into the items stored in the garage. He forced his car to fit damaging the wicker furniture set that he ran into. He ran over boxes of tile in the garage. He moved a cast iron sink that was stored in the garage and dropped it and cracked it. He moved a antique kitchen table and broke the legs. I have to rent a dumpster to throw out all the broken items. He broke every item in the garage. If your gut is telling you don't do this, please dont. I regret it.

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Malkavius2 t1_j4kv8s3 wrote

He was the reason for breaking the relationship. Sounds like trashy

Also, usually family is better Plus its only 6 hours

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runswithdolls t1_j4lbxg1 wrote

I got roasted in another post for commenting that I would have told someone leaving an abusive relationship that no they absolutely could not stay at my house for a "single night". Anyone who has ever actually offered someone "leaving an abusive relationship" knows how that actually goes - exactly like you've just described. There's often drugs or alcohol involved at the end of the crappiest relationships, and I'm not up for putting my family or my belongings through that nonsense again.

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JuicyBreeze t1_j4k9tib wrote

What the fuck is wrong with you. Tell your family politely but firmly that this guy will be staying in a hotel. If you have to hide everything and throw away your food everything is definitely not fine.

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KITTEHZ t1_j4kicoy wrote

My friend. Do not let this person into your home. If it’s not too late to back out now, explain that actually this won’t be possible, but you’re happy to chip in for a hotel. Then offer to pay whatever you’d have paid for the pizza and soda. If anyone has a problem with it, just be very apologetic but don’t actually explain why, you’ll just get into a debate. These people can’t force you to open your home to someone who you have been warned WOULD MESS WITH YOUR FOOD. Sometimes it’s ok to draw a boundary and stand firm, even if it means other relatives might be annoying. “I’m so sorry I won’t actually be able to help” keep repeating it. They’ll eventually forget and it’ll blow over.

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EggplantIll4927 t1_j4kz2gc wrote

JFC rescind the ok! You are more important than this random relative that you DONT HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH!!!!

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timmyboyoyo t1_j4js06l wrote

Why don't you tell your brother to put a lock then, and they should understand your concern then, even more because they told you, something don't add up

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Shizz-happens t1_j4kqu4s wrote

Seriously, just say no. Tell the, you changed your mind and are simply uncomfortable with the idea of someone in your house when you’re away. If they understand, you’ll feel good about your decision, if they get mad, then you’ll know you made the right decision.

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zeroth1 t1_j4jt74t wrote

Dude, chillax. He's not going to jizz on your food.

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TrishaThoon t1_j4l3vbk wrote

At this point I am thinking that is indeed a possibility.

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TrishaThoon t1_j4l3sd7 wrote

So why are you letting this person stay in your home???

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o-rka t1_j4lv1ce wrote

I’m just gonna ask…is he adding his own special sauce to items in other peoples fridge?

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coloradopesto t1_j4mfkos wrote

Have your brother talk to him, and have your brother tell him that he shouldn’t be staying there because of his past proclivities.

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homeworkunicorn t1_j4kakup wrote

Tell them that your toilet is broken (or any other household "fix" excuse you like, plumbing is good) and you are so sorry but they cannot stay there. Offer to give them 50 bucks towards a hotel. Any story you make up will work, any time it is "fixed" or "still isn't" is totally viable. Do it and don't look back.

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