Citizen_G t1_j4k0lrp wrote
This is crazy. Basically this person is a stranger to you and you should not have to open up your place to him considering the risks you have already mentioned.
Your family members who want you to have him stay at your place can all chip in and pay for a hotel room for this person they care for so much. Not your problem.
As I have gotten older I have learned that saying "NO" is good for my mental health and is often the wise choice.
heavy_metal_man t1_j4l9nfm wrote
I have made a conscious decision to be more decisive with family situations. In the past I was soft and wishy washy about things and my family took full advantage. I am seriously pissed off and have made a change in my life .
It definitely is good for mental health.
Citizen_G t1_j4lavsg wrote
Glad to hear you took charge.
People seem to forget that just because someone is family doesn't mean they are a good person. I have had to distance myself from a family member for my own peace of mind. Some of my friends are better family to me than my own family.
ramblingamblinamblin t1_j4lm9cv wrote
I would rather have any random strangers from Walmart or the gas station stay in my house and supervisor than a family member.
AngelThrones4sale t1_j4ks44i wrote
I'm on the other side of the "this is crazy here".
It's a family member crashing at her place for a few hours while she's away. Is it possible that he's a creep? I guess, but then get him on a webchat and suss him out. If there's a reason he gives off a creepy vibe, then yeah don't let him in your house. And ok, why not lock up a few important things somewhere and tell him not to poke around in certain places? sure.
But otherwise, come on, I've had friends of friends crash at my place. Not that big a deal.
cautioner86 t1_j4ky6ow wrote
The OP has said he has been warned by other family members to lock up valuables and food around this person, though. If I heard that, no way this person would be staying with me but I’m also at the point in life where I can say no to people.
TrishaThoon t1_j4l3yog wrote
Read the comments-there appears to be more to the story.
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