It might help to make a schedule of how frequently cleaning tasks should be done and follow that instead of trying to spot when they need to be done by looking. That might take some stress away.

E.g change bed linen and towels once a week, wipe kitchen counters/table after each meal, sweep kitchen floor each day, mop it once a week, hoover once a week…

No 2 ppl will probably agree about how often everything should be done but it might be a start and help get in a routine.