Take time to work on yourself (especially emotionally/mentally) and make friends (meet up is a good place to meet people with similar hobbies). I look for people who are continuing to grow and improve themselves, but not a project or someone I need to change. Dating is not easy, I like OK Cupid - but only select non monogamous if you are ok with that for the duration of your relationship. All the guys I have talked to have said they have to pay for the apps that require them to see likes. Remember women are independent and want someone they enjoy hanging out with and complement them… the older women get the less ok they are with manipulation and abuse I’ve actions