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Stop trying to date, instead start planning new activities you like to do and suck it up and do them alone. At least the people you meet are doing something you like!

Suggest visiting www.meetup.com and look for groups that interest you (bowling, karaoke, salsa dancing) and meeting people who share the same interests.

I’ve never dated a day in my life. I just did things I liked doing, usually with a group of people with similar tastes, and eventually found someone who I spent more time with than most. Everyone else decided we were a couple before we did. By that point, “dating” wasn’t really the term for it because we were in a long term relationship.

Don’t force relationships. Enjoy being friends with all sorts of people first.

Get tinder and spam dick pics. Chicks love dick pics.

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I suggest avoiding Meetup. Different perspective i guess but I found the quality to be the lowest.

This bank robber was arrested and they asked him, “why did you rob banks?”

He answered, “because that’s where the money is”.

Figure out what your tribe of women are, and go there. Going to clubs and bars is a terrible place to meet someone. I assume you mean finding a relationship vs getting laid that night.

If you don’t have an interest or hobby, start one. For example, women that bike have their act together enough that they can go do this, and afford a bike and are generally pretty healthy and active. Same with horses. And skiing.

I used to go salsa dancing at Tempe Marketplace with a meetup group for over a year, I loved it and always had fun. I guess some people are lucky and some aren’t. 🙂

Salsa is an awesome suggestion. If you can spin a lady, you will find ladies for sure.

Take time to work on yourself (especially emotionally/mentally) and make friends (meet up is a good place to meet people with similar hobbies). I look for people who are continuing to grow and improve themselves, but not a project or someone I need to change. Dating is not easy, I like OK Cupid - but only select non monogamous if you are ok with that for the duration of your relationship. All the guys I have talked to have said they have to pay for the apps that require them to see likes. Remember women are independent and want someone they enjoy hanging out with and complement them… the older women get the less ok they are with manipulation and abuse I’ve actions

Definitely depends on the area and what is available

I agree with the people saying the best thing to do is join group activities that interest you. But don't go with the goal of finding someone to date, go with the intention of having fun and hopefully making some friends.

Then go from there. If you meet someone you have chemistry with, great. If not, you've made some friends and enjoyed a hobby. It should help you relax and develop some social confidence.