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Flaky-Wallaby5382 t1_j6jbcia wrote

Reply to comment by glassdoorknob75 in LPT request: How to be a good conversationalist without oversharing personal things? by It_hurtsss

Thats why you go down the FORD progression. Eg Did you grow up around here? Are your kids nearby? They give a short answer move onto occupation. What do you do for work? Is that your passion? Get no engagement move onto recreation. What do you like to do for fun? Etc….

If its very one sided either you haven’t clicked on aomething they want to talk about or they dont want to talk to you. Knowing when to stop is just as imporntant. Exhaust the whole FORD then say it was great meeting you and immediately move on

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glassdoorknob75 t1_j6jebpu wrote

Used as a system to find out what the person is ok talking about! Ach, thank you so much I finally understand this.... I've mistakenly thought of it as a flatly structured(?) pool of green-light questions but this is organized quite differently! Must be easy on the other person's nerves too because at this level the asker wouldn't look nervous for them to feel like they must answer..

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