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PurpleAnole t1_j5ammzz wrote

Don't date anyone who's younger than 15 or older than 18 this year.


yelloroadintheusa OP t1_j5b1uf7 wrote

if i can ask, why?


Odd_Law8516 t1_j5cquz6 wrote

I'm a different person, but basically:

People mature and change a lot in the teens. A 14 year old is at a different maturity level (physically, mentally, emotionally, and socially, generally) than you are, and no matter how mature you are for your age, an 18 year old is at a different maturity level/life stage (again, physically, mentally, emotionally, and socially), than you. That means that inherently there's a bit of a mismatch (at best), and a significant power differential (worse) that can make the relationship unbalanced, unhealthy, or even exploitative.

As you get older, a few years will have less weight--an 18 year old and a 20 year old are in a much more comparable life/maturity stage than an 18 year old and a 16 year old.


PurpleAnole t1_j5cveu2 wrote

Yup. A good rule of thumb: anyone younger than half your age plus 7 is too young for you. (That's how I calculated the 15 to 18 range for you based on your age)