I'm no expert but I have been down this road life and ... experience helps. Ever wish you could take something said back? We are all imperfect and a little grace comes with that SELF realization. Try this, ID the person's motivate, lock it down with more observation, then introspect. Are you taking issue with thier motivation or their method? Their is no moral superior in style of method, what could is a person motivation or thier heart. Be style snob, but realize your very best friend in life doesn't have to like what you eat, style makes things no boring.