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DeArgonaut t1_j63l8v9 wrote

Communication is a two way street, it may be obvious to you what you mean, but clearly it wasn’t sufficient for the vast majority of people here. When you elaborate a little further it does become more clear, but I can very much see why the initial post didn’t work for most. No offense, you are coming off as very combative about it and unwilling to trying seeing from others side with comments like this.

I concur if it’s a colleague or someone else who should be finding this stuff on their own time then it can be quite annoying, but if it’s someone who just wants to have a conversation with you then I see it as endearing.

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[deleted] OP t1_j63maqr wrote

Absolutely. You can be nice the first few times, but, seriously?

There are always people who want to take advantage of you.

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DeArgonaut t1_j63o5ix wrote

There certainly are people like that, but it could be other things like they are trying to get more social interaction in their life, or it’s just not a habit of theirs to look things up on their own.

I moved across the US a year ago for a job and I did find myself more likely to ask little things than I do know as I developed a better social life outside of work. I agree that smaller hints like you suggest with asking about what Google says in a kind tone could help push them in a good direction.

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[deleted] OP t1_j63op1j wrote

You are leaving out context.

We can discuss a variety of situations, but if you're sitting at your desk trying to get work done and your workmate, who shouldn't be socializing, constantly badges you to do their work for them, you need to draw a line in the sand.

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DeArgonaut t1_j643m2v wrote

Ofc I’m leaving out that context, I don’t know the intricacies of your situation unless you tell me them. Yes, I would def agree in that situation a boundary would need to be enforced

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