murrimabutterfly t1_ja918ju wrote on February 27, 2023 at 7:07 PM

Reply to comment by EggplantIll4927 in LPT Request: How to keep a cleaner home by bschumm1

This is how my parents work, and it does fantastic for them.
My mom is very much a clean-when-you-can type person (minus floors--she hates dirty floors), whereas my dad is a clean-as-you-go type person.
My mom has made strides to be mindful, and after 30 years of marriage, they're about at the same level. My mom does the floors, the dusting, and the bathrooms while trying to maintain her spaces to a good level of clean. They split the laundry and some of the yardwork, and will work together to clean up if company is coming over. My dad does the rest, because it's automatic to him.
My brother and his wife have also established similar guidelines.
Relationships are a unity of two people, and mindful, realistic compromises are vital.

evileyeball t1_jabys7u wrote on February 28, 2023 at 9:34 AM

My wife hates washing dishes so when we got together we made the compromise that I will wash all the dishes and in exchange she will be the one who does the vacuuming because I hate vacuuming I don't like the loud constant sound it makes as I always feel like I am bothering the people around me when I do it.

TVprtyTonight t1_jacbgtx wrote on February 28, 2023 at 12:21 PM

If you are vacuuming when I am home you are bothering me :) so glad I live with a wife that hates cat hair and three cats. I love my wife :) so much vacuuming.

laugefar t1_jacfbj0 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 12:59 PM

Same in my relationsship.

I do the dishes, vacuum, change the bedsheets, occasionally wash the floors, cook and anything that requires tools.

My girlfriend cleans the bathroom, do the washing, and generally manages our calendar and our kid's wardrobe and health checkups.

Grocery shopping is divided.

realchairmanmiaow t1_jadmif3 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 6:01 PM

we even split doing the bed. I do the sheets and the pillows and she does the duvet. I hate doing the duvet can't get the technique, she can't lift our heavier mattress as easily as me to do the sheets and she's crap with the pillows.

food shopping I pack it all into bags (frozen/fridge/cupboard/delicate) and bring it into the kitchen and she unpacks it all.

but she hates ironing and I'm rubbish at it / don't care about it. So I just don't have ironed clothes and she irons what she needs. Might iron a suit/shirt on the rare occasion I need one. That's sort of figured out I suppose.

Gotta find the balances.