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Equivalent-Light-396 t1_ja3v9pm wrote

I would reconsider IT. A WFH job will still require you have childcare. It’s not really possible to care for an infant and WFH without additional help.

If that doesn’t turn you off, will need more info on what aspect of “IT” you are interested in. In quotes because IT tends to be a separate field from SWE these days.

The tech market is saturated with experienced software engineers who are unemployed from major layoffs. It’s hyper competitive and a rough time to jump in. You’ll need a plan, some mentorship, and be willing to take a less than ideal job to make this jump.

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Equivalent-Light-396 t1_ja3wbu5 wrote

Do you have money to possibly consider a bootcamp or do you want to self teach? Do you have a degree or no?

For context, I am a self taught backend engineer working in embedded engineering.

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romadea t1_ja3yemv wrote

Why are you not asking for child support? It’s not for you, it’s for your child, and they deserve it.

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satans_toast t1_ja3z34j wrote

Are you good with people? You might want to consider IT project management. It’s not tech-heavy, but it helps to be tech-savvy because of all the terms that get thrown around. Your existing degree might be helpful. There are courses and certificates available. And if you are good at it, and IT prospects fall off, there are other industries that also require project managers. There’s also little need to be on-site for a job like that (unless the company is managed by dilholes that require it).

I’d do some research on it first, though. I’m in IT but am not a PM. Hopefully some will post here and tell me whether my idea is sh*t or not.

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macnutz22 t1_ja3wt56 wrote

Just a bit of caution as learning a new job and taking care of a newborn at the same time will be extremely stressful. Hope it works out for you.

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chucky3456 t1_ja3z4s0 wrote

Service Desk/Tech Support would likely be the only option to start. Remotists.com has remote job listings

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sayyyywhat t1_ja4cer2 wrote

As a fellow working mom work to secure childcare asap. Can your parents help? Most childcare places have waitlists so join those now.

You will not be able to WFH full time and parent full time during the day please know this.

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sayyyywhat t1_ja4efy4 wrote

I wish you all the luck and good for you looking to launch a career to give you and you child a good life.

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WiseChoices t1_ja3thq8 wrote

Congratulations on your little one!

I am so glad for you both.

I am sorry that Dad has decided to abandon you and that he will miss out on fathering, which is one of life's greatest treasures.

If you hold him financially responsible you may be able to take this precious, foundational time with your child. And maybe you can share this with your family or his.

Working from home isn't a complete solution, but I hope you find the answers that you need.

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Gajatu t1_ja473bx wrote

It is not crossing a line to tell his parents that their son is a deadbeat. They probably already know that.

As for advice, if you're really insane, learn linux system administration and virtualization. It's not easy by any stretch, but linux and it's virtualization tools are free and the virtualization skills are transferable.

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shanefking t1_ja4d1g8 wrote

If I had a son that started a family and then abandoned them, I would want to know.

I’ve seen this be a pattern of behavior, my friend’s dad had done that at least 4 different times, and he is still finding “new” siblings.

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[deleted] OP t1_ja4di6g wrote

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shanefking t1_ja4l4h6 wrote

I mean, it takes two people, and you certainly didn’t do it all by yourself.

I’m not sure, maybe send an email and include a picture of the two of you together, just so they know its real? I’d also tell them something like “I’m not asking for anything from you, I just want you to know. Here is my information if you would like to get in contact in the future.”

But theres a lot of cultural context that I don’t know, that could affect how it would be interpreted

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romadea t1_ja4o4ui wrote

If he would disagree, he would be absolutely wrong, though? Your child is owed support from their father, morally if not legally (I don’t know where you live, but I don’t think there are many countries where he wouldn’t be required to provide for his child.) If he doesn’t want to be in their life, financial support is the bare minimum he can do. He played a 50% role in creating a human being, he doesn’t get to just walk away from the situation.

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keepthetips t1_ja3sbpy wrote

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Ambitious_Ad_9637 t1_ja4b9s4 wrote

My suggestion is looking into brokerage outfits. They use remote agents and it’s the type of work you can do while caring for an infant, and while the money isn’t the best walking in, you can very quickly move to making percentage on top of salary once you know the game.

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Ambitious_Ad_9637 t1_ja4ecpx wrote

It’s not. It’s the logistics of trucking industry. Putting loads with drivers and paying them less than the shipper is for delivery, essentially.

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[deleted] OP t1_ja4f4df wrote

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Ambitious_Ad_9637 t1_ja4hc0s wrote

I’d start with the smaller brokerage houses and reach out to their hr department to snoop for remote opportunities. Also employment sites and agencies, searching for keywords like “full time remote”. You might be surprised, it’s becoming more common.

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tossowary t1_ja4d4y1 wrote

Like insurance?

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Ambitious_Ad_9637 t1_ja4eks8 wrote

Insurance companies have decent remote work, but brokerage is about trucking freight. Putting drivers with shippers basically.

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tossowary t1_ja4ge6y wrote

Ooooooh! Thanks for the clarification, I don’t know anything about that field

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jc3737 t1_ja4n8om wrote

Sharepont administration would be my recommendation

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grax23 t1_ja4vvru wrote

Realistically i would say not a chance.

You cant really do phone service since your kind will demand your attention quite frequently and not when it is convenient for you and the customer.

Since you don't code and have no certs etc then what can you offer a potential employer?

Data entry is a possibility but thats low pay and often outsourced to low pay countries or automated.

Best bet if you really want to be in IT is to get some certs that can be useful from remote and to show that to a potential employer. Azure certs might be a good track to follow since its already not an onsite thing and the barrier to entry is not too bad.

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