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Paul-duggan t1_j9e90mx wrote

I used to suffer from this, and at an appraisal my manager told me that people with imposter syndrome compare themselves with the brightest people they work with, whereas you should compare yourself with the average person on the street. It’s ok to not be the world’s foremost expert in your field of work (but keep striving to learn more every day) and ask yourself how many other people “out there” could do what you do.

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the_original_Retro t1_j9f1v1m wrote

This is the right answer.

I'm apparently a decent public speaker and meeting facilitator that has no difficulty getting up in front of crowds. It's a continuous surprise to me that others fear the hell out of it and it's probably one of the biggest phobias around.

So what I think is simple and routine and straightforward - looking around the room to include everyone, addressing people's inputs directly but firmly, interrupting off-topic or ranty meeting contributors so we can move on - is something that I've been told many times is a "skill" to have.

I don't even notice it. I just do it.

So I don't VALUE it, and its contribution.

And when I wonder "Am I actually worth what I'm being paid?", I don't properly factor it in, while others do.

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