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coffeeandlattee OP t1_jae24a3 wrote

Reply to comment by Coconut_Waffles in LPT Requests: How to get over being left out? by coffeeandlattee

No, I’ve been working with her for years.

Basically, she invited everyone except for me. The other people who didn’t get invited were hired on after the invites were send out.

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Coconut_Waffles t1_jae2ot8 wrote

Ah, my mistake. My brain stopped processing after reading that line.

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FoldableBrain t1_jaeagy5 wrote

I'm 99% sure this was just an oversight. I've had parties where I thought I invited everyone but then, when they weren't there, I called them and said, "Hey, man, where WERE you?" only to find out they had no idea there even was party.
Guest lists are made up in our heads. You were having relationship problems and never engaged regarding the wedding. She might have thought you were hoping NOT to have to go. Therefore, when the wedding guest list was made, her head made no connection to you.
Oversight. (Or she thinks you're the on that keeps eating her lunch out of the break room refrigerator.)Buy her a wedding gift. Give it to her, congratulate her, and tell her it's ok that you didn't get invited. She will either explain or you will be the better person of the situation, either way, you get closure.

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