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BrainGiggles t1_jaekgte wrote

Gathering from the information that you had shared, it seems that the bride may have felt it would been insensitive to invite you to her wedding when you were going through some relationship issues. Or it could just be that she didn’t think you guys were close enough to warrant an invitation.

I don’t know where you’re located, or anything about your culture or the bride’s. But I’m Asian and I’m located in Southern CA. Growing up my family (and alot of our other Asian friends and family) viewed receiving a wedding invitation as a sign of a bill/debt to pay. Even if you weren’t close to the bride and groom, there was a social expectation to gift a certain amount in cash or check (non monetary gifts are frowned upon in the Asian culture). The standard amount was $100 per person attending (it may be $200 now due to raising prices). So imagine if you’re working in a company where 60% of the employees are Asian and you don’t all know each other but yet every few months you get a wedding invitation for you and your S.O. to attend. I have older siblings and I remember hearing them complain and bitch about attending another co worker’s wedding. Of course people could just always decline - but if you decline then when it’s YOUR turn to get marry people won’t attend your wedding and won’t return the monetary gifts. It’s a very tit for tat kind of arrangement and gross I know. I’m glad when I got married my husband and I opted to tell our guests not to bring gifts to remove the possible stressors. But anyway, what I’m saying is that my siblings and I guess my parents would have been thrilled not to have been invited to the wedding of a coworker whom they hardly knew.

You should check out some local comedy clubs in your area for that day and just go spend the evening at a comedy club and enjoy yourself with a friend or two!

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