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Have a backbone for yourself and tell people how you feel

Leave then tell them as it is if asked for a reason.

That would be great but what’s the expected outcome in your point of view?

Just ghost them. Nothing wrong with that. You owe nobody an explanation either

Stand up for yourself, if people are treating you or acting a certain way towards you that you don’t like you don’t owe anybody anything and/or have to hang out with them, and if they ask why then you tell them. You’ll feel a lot better about yourself once you realize you create your own destiny and attract whatever you want to attract into your life.

This. Literally just walk away. Stop talking to them, stop interacting with them, remove them on any social media. Do not engage if you see them in public.

I had to do this with a toxic ex recently, and it's literally as simple as telling yourself "I'm not doing this anymore" and being done with them.

This is great advice and I do thank you for this, however, I don’t think they have the same mindset as we do about self-development and being a better version of ourselves. I think this would perceived as an “attack” and be even more toxic and spread bs that’s why I am trying to quiet quit and avoid confrontation.

If that’s how you presume them to feel then simply ghost them, they don’t deserve a response from you if that’s how they want to act, block them, ignore all contact and go about your life if that’s what will truly make you happy, don’t let people hold you back, especially shitty friends

Thank you, I’ve tried but I can’t help to think that they’re resenting me… I know it’s selfish

If they perceive you standing up for yourself as an "attack" on them, that is a problem internal to them and you are not responsible for it in any way.

Let toxic people be toxic and suffer the consequences of their actions. You cannot save them if they do not want to change, and you should not waste your time, your energy or your life trying to.

What have they done to indicate they want you to fail?

Come play with us? Nah, no time today, sorry. Maybe next week!

Keep it up until they stop contacting you

Exactly, very well put my friend, we can’t save everyone

You’re right, very insightful advice. Thank you

You're welcome. I'm going through something similar with someone who is thankfully now in my past, so I understand how tough it can be and how wrong it can feel to think that your actions might be hurting them. But it's important to remember that some people are unreasonable, and it's their own actions and demands that are hurting them, not you - you're looking out for yourself, and that is what you should prioritize. It gets easier the more you do it.

Wishing you the best on all of this. <3

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It doesn’t matter if they resent you. Make peace with your needs first and foremost. You don’t owe anybody anything.

That’s kinda the point, if they’re negative people and they have negative thoughts about you (double negative) that’s good

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Ask if they’ve ever heard the glorious gospel of your new Lord and Savior.
Operate as if being sucked into a cult. They prolly won’t even wave goodbye.