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Zookeeper-007 t1_j9xa0y4 wrote

Surround yourself with better people. There’s nothing wrong with you

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Buddhist_Path t1_j9xarem wrote

This. You're emotional because you love life and are connected with what's around you. I wish more people were like you.

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makegoodchoicesok t1_j9za0wx wrote

Exactly. Like dude, it took me three years of intensive therapy to stop emotionally blunting and teach myself to cry again. The catharsis of being able to let it all out when things get rough is an invaluable coping mechanism. Feeling emotions is a goddamn gift.

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pseudocultist t1_ja09wgn wrote

I started crying in front of my therapist, and then stopped myself and went cold faced, and she noticed and I was mortified. And she’s like “that’s super common among men, I’m not going to call you names like your dad might have, it’s ok to cry here.” Uhh shit. I am found out.

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makegoodchoicesok t1_ja0gf45 wrote

Haha believe it or not I was socialized the same, despite being a woman. My mom believed crying was a manipulation tactic girls use, so she'd start raging if you did it in front of her. Probably not a super common experience among women, but it really makes me feel for guys like yourself. Glad you've been able to find your tears! They're so important.

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animellama1337 t1_j9zr53h wrote

You can actually feel? I usually just leak around the edges. Good for you.

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BysshePls t1_j9zy15s wrote

I'm so sorry you're like me, but this hit me so good in the funny bone 😂 I just leak around the edges until the pressure explodes.

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enginerd12 t1_j9z8pmw wrote

Yeah, OP's concern screams out that he/she is surrounding him/herself with shitty people.

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Edit: Oh, and read The Four Agreements. It's a short book and an easy read even if you're not into reading.

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rookierook00000 t1_ja11a15 wrote

So much this. A good part of what affects you both mentally and emotionally is the people you surround yourself with. This includes family members. I know because I have experienced living in hard times and had to live with my sister, who along with her husband, only made me feel more of a pariah in their home the longer I stay there, and it REALLY messed my head. Compared to when I lived with my brother, I had a sense of peace and able to express myself more freely.

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aim_so_far t1_j9z2l5l wrote

Worst advice in this thread. There is nothing wrong with being sensitive, but nobody wants to deal with someone crying during a time of crisis. Managing ur emotions is an important trait to have in the adult world.

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GaiaBeauty t1_j9zipfn wrote

No one wants to deal with someone crying during a time of crisis????? Really, person?? Speak for yourself.

i am one of those, if privileged enough to be in someone’s space as they cry, i will just hold them and listen.

in my rare times of crying i would hope that someone comes and hold my hand as i express myself. and they have. they don’t need to say anything. just be there. and there, they are.

There is something to be said to feel safe enough to express emotions, with someone.

If YOU can’t handle someone’s crying, just say that.

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Absolei t1_j9zv9xf wrote

I don't think that's the situations OP is in. Honestly, it just sounds like they're a sensitive person who really feels things deeply and in consequence, they show their emotions more often than others. This is very much not bad! It just means that they've got higher empathy and stuff. These other people are the ones in the wrong and you're acting like them.

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