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PrestigiousWaffles t1_j9yemxs wrote

The people who write not to change don't really get the problem. It's good to be an emotional person, it is however very bad to cry in front of people who want to get back at you. They will see your kindheartedness as a weakness and use it against you. The best defence against a bully is being unfazed

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Girl--Gone-Mild t1_ja0glc2 wrote

I feel this and the OP. I hate showing emotions in certain situations - like at work with a demented boss. It’s only happened a few times - but all those times were so embarrassing and I tried so hard to fake no emotion but I broke. I wish I had an answer. When I feel the tears coming I try and grit my teeth and imagine my face going blank and try to think of something to pull myself out of my own head or the current moment … if that makes any sense. Like something I’m going to do tonight or saying the alphabet backwards in my head even for just a few seconds. I don’t know - but I’ll be following to see what other people suggest. I agree you shouldn’t try to lose your emotions but I do understand wanting to control what people see. Especially when it will make life hard or have a negative effect on the situation.

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