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God, I hope nobody needs that LPT. That should be obvious for almost everyone bar the biggest narcissists.

The words people grapple for when you tell them that something truly horrible has happened will baffle you. You get very used to it.

I wonder if there’s just some sort of switch in their brains that didn’t get clicked on, like that to them makes perfect sense to be a equal comparison and even when you explain to them, they won’t agree with nor understand.

OR LPT PART 2: let them express to you how they're feeling. Let that moment be about them, and not switch the conversation to yourself and your feelings

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If my grandparents died in a horrific fight to the death scenario iniated by an aquaintace of someone I know, you can be damn sure that, that someone I know is going to hear about it

Heck, I have heard people then talk about their beloved pet who died.

It's natural for people to try to let you know how they "understand" what you're experiencing. It's nearly always a bad idea. Frankly, it's not great listening skills at the very least. At worst, it's just terrible. If you're aware of something going on with someone, just be a shoulder if you can. Don't offer an example of your experience.

"Your daughter died? Oh, I'm so sorry. I know how you feel. One day, I overfed my goldfish, and two of them died. Very sad."

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