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DYTTIGAF t1_ja65dmb wrote

You're using your family as an emotional tampon. You believe you can selfishly drop toxic baggage using a construct of "something they did" excuse with the misguided belief they can take it into perpetuity.

Ask yourself this simple question: If a total stranger walked up to you. And said...what you said.. to your family members how long would you keep them around?

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surlygrrl42 t1_ja6a2gt wrote

Love that phrase “emotional tampon” because that is the perfect way to describe it. While it’s a way to vent your frustration in the moment and you feel comfortable showing your family your ugly side, it’s hurtful and damaging to your relationships.

As others have said, it’s a good idea to get therapy and figure out why you’re being triggered. Do you have an undiagnosed mental health issue that makes you angry? Do you have control issues?

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