But there isn’t even a standard within this adopted culture. One could say they always tip 20% no matter what but sometimes you might want to hook up your server with 35% because they absolutely killed it.

I also get where OP is coming from.

It’s true. There is no law that requires you to tip unless it’s part of the bill. In fact, nobody even tells you how much to tip let alone that you HAVE to tip before you leave. It’s a weird unspoken experience of having someone feel like they need to perform for you in some way in order to get more money from you.

It’s awful that there customers that will hold that tip over a servers head like they are their slave or jester while they visit the restaurant.

Studies show that the higher an hourly wage a server is paid, the less poor treatment they are willing to put up with.

So not only do we not pay these people that are literally serving us but they are more abused the less they get paid.

Tell me how that’s fair.