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virtue-or-indolence t1_j9bjzdk wrote

Better yet, don’t argue on the internet. You will never change anyone else’s mind about anything important.

There are copious studies on the neurochemistry of an argument that show an inability to edit certain sections of memory that came about as an evolutionary tool: killing a bear barehanded once obviously shouldn’t change the classification of a bear as fucking dangerous. The portions of our brain that we hold ideas about religion and politics (the most common sources of argument) happen to fall into these protected regions. This is made doubly worse by the loss of inflection and nuance from text compared to speech.

I try to limit myself to a single response for exactly this reason unless I find I’ve actually learned something and the conversation is non-combative, and the more the comment opposes mine the less likely I am to respond. In theory, I’m not perfect.

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TrooperJohn t1_j9cxiw3 wrote

Well, I do agree that you're not going to change the other person's mind.

But (especially if it's a high-traffic, general-interest forum), there are a lot of others who will read your exchange, and THEY might be influenced if their minds are not set on the matter.

So make the best argument you can. You might pick up a few new people on your side, especially if your arguments are reasoned and in good faith. Tone makes a difference.

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virtue-or-indolence t1_j9d433z wrote

If your intended audience isn’t the person you’re arguing with, better to ignore them and address your intended audience directly, no?

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