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PretendiFendi t1_j6goq91 wrote

No probably not. If you have money to travel and your work can be done at home, you could probably arrange to fly back and forth later in your phd. No one is going to know where you are.

I did an experimental PhD, and there was a guy in my group who had a baby with his phd student wife across the country. He flew back and forth without any of us knowing. He would typically do weeks of work in a single week by working literally 20 hours a day and then go stay with her for two weeks and fly back before his next meeting so no one knew. We all didn’t know bc he was co-advised, so we all thought when he wasn’t in our lab he was in the other.

What I’m saying is that as you get older and more independent you can get away with a lot, people don’t check how you’re doing your work.

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PretendiFendi t1_j6gox66 wrote

Edit: just wanted to add that I only found out what he was doing through a friend of mine being friends with his wife independently at her university. Wild story.

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